SLAP CHOPS AND APPLE SHAUCE...

WATCH FIRST!


So yea, this happened and here is what i think people should learn from this. Obviously this is completely from my POV.

So anyone that knows me would know that I do NOT condone hitting a woman. That said it needs to be added that I absolutely don't condone hitting a woman out of anger or jealousy or anything that has to do with a woman that you know or are involved with having an argument, lovers quarrel or anything of that nature. If your lady pissed you off so much that you need to hit her, you don't need to be with her anymore.

THAT now said, anyone that knows me also knows that I'm big on protecting yourself, defending yourself and even more importantly, respecting yourself and others.

SO here it is.... this young lady, first made the mistake of not respecting others. You don't like some one's clothes so you're going to belittle them in public?
THEN you go, along with the rest of them that got up and tried to assault the dude that was recording the whole thing. Being that you knocked the phone to the ground now you broke another rule by putting your hands on someone. (No respect for others space and personal property)
THEN you go and cant take ONE insult from this dude that you've been insulting ten times over and you decide to take it further and put your hands on HIM as well. (No self-respect because you cant take what you so easily dish out)

Let me backtrack for one second, dude with the phone was already justified in slapping you if he had. Don't come at me (I will defend myself) Don't touch me (I will touch you back)

And then came the slap that you fully deserved. You already put your hands on two people. You're lucky you only got hit once and it was a slap not a punch.

My man that stood up and threw fists for her, that was very gallant of you bro but she had that slap coming so your chivalry was a little misguided.

I realize we don't know what happened prior to the video. Maybe 8-ball was trying to talk to her or something and she didn't want to be talked to. That's fine, but have enough respect for yourself and him to just tell him no thanks and keep moving. 
Have enough respect for yourself not to make a scene, to handle the situation like a lady and not like you're at some junior high school playground.
If he is respecting your personal space, you should be doing the same.

When a man swings at another man, he hits him like a man and is fully prepared to get hit like a man. Even as a woman, you should expect the same.

Respect people. Have some for yourselves. Show some to others.
Respect that people are different.
Respect other people's space and others privacy and others choice of clothes.
Respect others intelligence.
And absolutely do not touch me, because you might find yourself wearing that right cross even if you don't respect it.

You've been bitten, respectfully...

There's an update for the video.
According to the NYPD, Jorge Pena, 25, was charged with misdemeanor assault and disorderly conduct. Kevin Gil, 21, was also charged with misdemeanor assault and disorderly conduct. Danay Howard, a 21-year-old female, was charged with felony assault and disorderly conduct, and Shanique Campbell, 20, was charged with misdemeanor assault and disorderly conduct.

Catcalls and assholes.

So i'm on a bit of a fence about this catcalling video and the issues it brings up. There are a lot of thoughts that rise from it and some may kind of random, so bare with me.

One side of the fence is the side that says yes you are absolutely right. Dudes are stupid and rude and pervy.

But the other side is the side that asks the question... so how am I supposed to meet you if you think everything and anything i say to you is harassment?

Lets face it, i can totally admit it because i know my own kind. Dudes, a lot of dudes.....

(Oh yea and before i forget, I use "I" here a lot. That in no way means that im talking about myself. As I am surely not out on the street trying to talk to women, let alone harassing them. I use I to refer to guys or a guy in general)

Dudes, a lot of dudes are straight up assholes. If your goal was to get her to talk to you and now you're calling her a bitch when she didnt? You're an asshole.
OR If you're standing there licking your lips, gripping your nuts and "talkin bou" hey mami wats good?.... You're an asshole.
OR You follow hey how you doing with yea my dog dont talk either... You're an asshole.
OR If Damn!, Damn girl!, Damn you got a phatty! is your opening line.... You're an asshole.
OR If sweetheart, baby, mami, sexy, ass, booty, phatty, etc. are part of the first sentence you speak to this woman you've never met before.... you're an asshole.
In fact if the first words from your mouth to this strange woman are not "excuse me".... You're an asshole.
So yes ladies, I get THAT.

So now.... What if?

What if I walk up to you and say...
Excuse me. But I wanted to introduce myself.
Is that Harassment?
OR  Hi, how you doing today?
OR Hi, I think you're very pretty and I'd like to meet you.
Is that sexual harassment now because i mentioned your looks?
Sight is the first sense (unless you have the 6th and can see dead people) that ALL OF US use in any encounter. So it's rational to think that I would mention how pretty or attractive I think you are. I dont say yo baby you hot as fuck, but is it really wrong or harassing for me to say you're very pretty and I'd like to know you? Am I objectifying you by saying that?

Obviously theres a big difference between the two methods but there many people who would say yes, that is harassment. A woman (or a man) should be able to walk down the street and not have another person comment, speak about, or speak to them.
Sure but if that were the case then how would anyone meet anyone? If someone doesnt make the first move, how would you ever meet (potentially) a friend, a buddy, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a spouse?
There are right ways to approach someone and there are wrong ways but it seems like people want to just do away with all ways.


Fellas: stop being assholes. Speak TO a woman like a lady not AT them like your dog.
If she says hello, shes just trying to be nice. Dont start booking a hotel room.
If she doesnt say anything, take it like man. Be a real man and accept and respect the rejection and keep it moving.

Ladies: Sure you can be picky but come on. If he comes at you the right way, at least you can listen until he makes you not want to listen anymore.  (if you're single that is. If you're married/BF/engaged etc then a simple sorry, not interested would do fine)
And if he's using the asshole methods mentioned above i would recommend some type of self defense instruction so you can knock a fool out.


Oh yea and to the parents out there please teach your sons some fucking respect. If there was more out there we wouldn't even need to be talking about this.

and you've been bitten.

Dr. Stupid

Right, so here is my thing. YOU are a fcking DOCTOR, fully knowing the dangers involved with working in the country you just went to work in. Why wouldn't the FIRST thing you do when you set foot back in this country be to quarantine yourself and get yourself checked out?
No this fcking guy went out and about in a city of millions and got on the subway, he went out to eat, he went fcking bowling. Are you fcking stupid??
So look you fcking idiot, if you survive this and other people die because of you, you too should be put in stockades and the rest of us be allowed to walk by and try to slap the stupid out of you on a daily basis.

And on the topic of stupid, all you fcking limp dick, wanna be macho, hiding behind tags and firewalls gamergate bitch asses need to roll back down to your basement gaming rooms, play your games, shut the fuck up and leave people be. People who have the same right to give their opinion as you do to scratch your nuts while you game all day.You threaten people with bodily harm over a fcking game? stupid.

You've been bitten

Hittin switches

So there are many times that i have very strong opinions about things going on in our screwed up world and then i choose to just keep them to myself.
Today i can't do that. I'm going to make this really short and to the point.

People need to mind their fucking business and let a parent discipline their kids.
Shut the fck up with your save the rod, count to ten, 5 minutes of time out bullshit!

Kids need to learn some respect and some boundaries and yes even some fear. That's something that has been lacking as is evident by the increase of crimes, assaults and robberies and everything else committed by young kids, teens and young adults.
You think a teen who has learned those things would go around trying to "knock-out" an innocent 70 year old man?  Hell no. He would be too afraid of getting knocked out himself when he got home.
So spare me the bullshit morality talk. That talk wont help you when someone is kicking your ass and stealing your shit because everyone couldn't mind their business when their parents were trying to set them on a better path. 


You've been bitten

Nonsense

So here is my take on this whole Jay-Z vs Solange thing.


Wait for it.
Wait for it.

I dont give two flying kicks and fucks about this bullshit.I'm sorry i even wasted cyber space writing THIS shit.

Fuck you very much once again MTA. A 20 minute trip took me an hour today on the F train. And of course it made perfect MTA sense to hear the conductor say we are delayed because of train traffic ahead of us because along the ride you let THREE OTHER F trains cross in front of us. Fucking morons. In what universe does it make sense to stop one F train just to let 3 others pass it by?? Was my time not as important as everyone else on the other 3 trains?

Byte me