One side of the fence is the side that says yes you are absolutely right. Dudes are stupid and rude and pervy.
But the other side is the side that asks the question... so how am I supposed to meet you if you think everything and anything i say to you is harassment?
Lets face it, i can totally admit it because i know my own kind. Dudes, a lot of dudes.....
(Oh yea and before i forget, I use "I" here a lot. That in no way means that im talking about myself. As I am surely not out on the street trying to talk to women, let alone harassing them. I use I to refer to guys or a guy in general)
Dudes, a lot of dudes are straight up assholes. If your goal was to get her to talk to you and now you're calling her a bitch when she didnt? You're an asshole.
OR If you're standing there licking your lips, gripping your nuts and "talkin bou" hey mami wats good?.... You're an asshole.
OR You follow hey how you doing with yea my dog dont talk either... You're an asshole.
OR If Damn!, Damn girl!, Damn you got a phatty! is your opening line.... You're an asshole.
OR If sweetheart, baby, mami, sexy, ass, booty, phatty, etc. are part of the first sentence you speak to this woman you've never met before.... you're an asshole.
In fact if the first words from your mouth to this strange woman are not "excuse me".... You're an asshole.
So yes ladies, I get THAT.
So now.... What if?
What if I walk up to you and say...
Excuse me. But I wanted to introduce myself.
Is that Harassment?
OR Hi, how you doing today?
OR Hi, I think you're very pretty and I'd like to meet you.
Is that sexual harassment now because i mentioned your looks?
Sight is the first sense (unless you have the 6th and can see dead people) that ALL OF US use in any encounter. So it's rational to think that I would mention how pretty or attractive I think you are. I dont say yo baby you hot as fuck, but is it really wrong or harassing for me to say you're very pretty and I'd like to know you? Am I objectifying you by saying that?
Obviously theres a big difference between the two methods but there many people who would say yes, that is harassment. A woman (or a man) should be able to walk down the street and not have another person comment, speak about, or speak to them.
Sure but if that were the case then how would anyone meet anyone? If someone doesnt make the first move, how would you ever meet (potentially) a friend, a buddy, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a spouse?
There are right ways to approach someone and there are wrong ways but it seems like people want to just do away with all ways.
Fellas: stop being assholes. Speak TO a woman like a lady not AT them like your dog.
If she says hello, shes just trying to be nice. Dont start booking a hotel room.
If she doesnt say anything, take it like man. Be a real man and accept and respect the rejection and keep it moving.
Ladies: Sure you can be picky but come on. If he comes at you the right way, at least you can listen until he makes you not want to listen anymore. (if you're single that is. If you're married/BF/engaged etc then a simple sorry, not interested would do fine)
And if he's using the asshole methods mentioned above i would recommend some type of self defense instruction so you can knock a fool out.
Oh yea and to the parents out there please teach your sons some fucking respect. If there was more out there we wouldn't even need to be talking about this.
and you've been bitten.
Excuse me. But I wanted to introduce myself.
Is that Harassment?
OR Hi, how you doing today?
OR Hi, I think you're very pretty and I'd like to meet you.
Is that sexual harassment now because i mentioned your looks?
Sight is the first sense (unless you have the 6th and can see dead people) that ALL OF US use in any encounter. So it's rational to think that I would mention how pretty or attractive I think you are. I dont say yo baby you hot as fuck, but is it really wrong or harassing for me to say you're very pretty and I'd like to know you? Am I objectifying you by saying that?
Obviously theres a big difference between the two methods but there many people who would say yes, that is harassment. A woman (or a man) should be able to walk down the street and not have another person comment, speak about, or speak to them.
Sure but if that were the case then how would anyone meet anyone? If someone doesnt make the first move, how would you ever meet (potentially) a friend, a buddy, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a spouse?
There are right ways to approach someone and there are wrong ways but it seems like people want to just do away with all ways.
Fellas: stop being assholes. Speak TO a woman like a lady not AT them like your dog.
If she says hello, shes just trying to be nice. Dont start booking a hotel room.
If she doesnt say anything, take it like man. Be a real man and accept and respect the rejection and keep it moving.
Ladies: Sure you can be picky but come on. If he comes at you the right way, at least you can listen until he makes you not want to listen anymore. (if you're single that is. If you're married/BF/engaged etc then a simple sorry, not interested would do fine)
And if he's using the asshole methods mentioned above i would recommend some type of self defense instruction so you can knock a fool out.
Oh yea and to the parents out there please teach your sons some fucking respect. If there was more out there we wouldn't even need to be talking about this.
and you've been bitten.
